wanted to drop you a line and let you know what's been going
on since I took the three-day training last year... and why
I've been too busy to come back for the practitioner this year!
bought a house and remodeled it with my fiancee... oh, yes,
that was after I got engaged. We will be married in late September;
we've already planned everything and will spend next to nothing
yet have everything exactly as we want it.
found new meaning and new directions in my work, and in life
itself. Best of all, I've been gratefully able to share the
fruits of my discoveries with both my fiancee and my best friend,
helping them discover their own new perspectives on life and
much for the obvious external stuff, the stuff that's easy to
write about and good testimonial fodder. It's not that those
things aren't great, they really aren't the point, of course.
The real point is knowing that I can make the leap of faith
from choice to action to result... and the universe will catch
me on the other side. It *is* possible to make something from
nothing... in fact, the ONLY way to make something is from nothing.
was only about six weeks ago that Leslie was wondering how we
could possibly afford to get married this year and still have
the honeymoon we wanted. I told her that the problem wasn't
that we didn't have enough money, it was that we hadn't decided
whether we were going to do it. If we decided we were going
to do it, we would figure it out, I told her. We had accomplished
more, with less, buying the house. Now, of course, we have a
completely figured-out budget and know without a doubt what
we're going to do. And just the other day I couldn't help but
smile when I heard her telling someone else to believe in themselves,
that if they decide to do something, anything is possible.
feel free to use this as a testimonial letter if you like. I
know people won't "get it" from reading it, just like
I didn't "get it" before I came to your class. They
may think it's about visualizing weird shapes and making mind
machines, and for some, that's what it will be. For me, it was
the example that you set that showed me another whole level
of experience in life. And when you pushed me to give my best,
I discovered that I never really owned my abilities before,
never used them in my own service or the service of others,
but only employed them to feed my ego or to escape difficult
and Carolyn talk about how it's not the techniques, dammit.
It's so much not about techniques that it's really laughable
to me now how badly I wanted to learn the techniques when I
came to that class and spent a good part of the first day or
two wondering when the hell you were going to teach us some
techniques! Now it's so clear that techniques are on a logical
level below where personal transformation takes place -- they
are inside the Skinner box of stimulus-response, and true transformation
is realizing that you can always make a bigger box, a bigger
frame, a bigger meaning that changes the little meanings inside
it. AND realizing that even that idea is just another box, but
that's okay, you can always get a bigger one when you outgrow
said. You all take care out there, and perhaps I'll be seeing
you next year!
Rex and Carolyn,
would just like to take a moment to personally thank you, Rex.
The training is really starting to integrate well. I have noticed
many wonderful positive changes. Actually the other day I was
reading the your marketing letter, you know the one where you
guys make all of those far out claims. Those ones about how
Rex trains and all of the benefits the training will offer etc...
Actually the ones which I thought were a serious exaggeration
when I came on the training !!
I have found first hand that they weren't. In actual fact, you
delivered, you delivered BIG TIME ! Your training has become
a very prominent and useful tool in my life and my personal
development, and one which I'm using and will continue to use
for the rest of my ooohh good time !! on Earth.
you very much Rex for the opportunity to be trained by you !!!
and yes I'm seriously anticipating the next time !!
Rex and Carolyn,
spring begins here in Iowa, my thoughts are turning again to
which NLP training to attend this summer. I appreciate the reviews
you publish, which give various perspectives, and would like
to include, for your readers, my perspective on the training
I received last summer.
colleague and I attended the Master Track with Rex Sikes in
WI. This two week training was truly outstanding. As a college
professor in psychology I attend many conferences and I'm afraid
I have to admit that I am not very easy to impress. However,
I am thinking of going back this summer to the same training
because of many factors:
I am more competent....Something switched in my brain during
this training, from worrying about knowing which technique to
use when, to feeling competent and confident that I was beginning
to understand the underlying processes enough to generate techniques
appropriately, as necessary. This has made a dramatic impact
on how I approach counseling clients, and my success with them.
(2) I am happier....the training helped me discover new skills,
clarify values and goals, change some unwanted behaviors, and
wipe out some barriers that were holding me back from moving
ahead quickly in life. Moving ahead means different things for
different people, of course, but for me it meant a career change,
more comfort level with ambiguity, more faith in my own abilities
to take charge and build my destiny...I'm not certain what path
I'll take next but for the first time in my life that is AOK.
This comfort zone is a direct result of Rex's program and the
challenge and learning that happened there.
The training was packed ... I don't go to NLP trainings because
I have nothing better to do with my time or money. I go for
specific goals and I like high value, high usefulness, for my
money. I have found this level of high value packed into Rex's
training. The Master Track was like a bootcamp of sorts: full
days, full nights of learning. I felt the training was set up
like an all-you-can-eat buffet for the inquiring mind: you could
choose to stick with a modest fare or go wild...the training
was so multi-layered.
Rex and Carolyn are both great people....at my previous NLP
training (which was also very good) I didn't get to actually
know my instructors...they seemed very busy, and sometimes removed
themselves quickly after classes...which I can understand because
with 70 students...well...you can only stretch so far. But the
Sikes Master Track could not be more opposite. Rex limits class
size dramatically...we had about 15 people. Rex was available
every single day, ate each meal with us, and sat up to the wee
hours as long as there were people who wanted to talk. We learned
much at 1 a.m. I was very impressed with the total devotion
of Rex and Carolyn to our class, and their unending energy to
give to us as long as we wanted to learn. Carolyn is a decided
asset to the training and worked with us individually by request.
Besides being an interesting, stimulating person, Rex is fantastically
competent....he is truly very funny (we laughed so much, so
often, so consistently), dynamic, and an absolute master of
NLP. One of the reasons I want to go back is to watch with new
eyes what he does presenting, eliciting, anchoring, etc., and
listen with new ears...his language usage is amazing. He constantly
models what he is teaching. (constantly???...well...generalizations
aside...it seemed so!) Rex has an exceptional skill for working
with a group of people and making his presentation seem "for
you", very personal, at the same time. His teaching skills
are outstanding...again, the smorgasbord analogy works here...there
are multiple layers of training going on if one keeps one's
eyes and ears open. This is vitally important when assessing
the value of an NLP training.
Classmates and accommodations: both quite agreeable. Because
of the small group size and the meal arrangements (we all ate
together as a family) I got to know several classmates well.
What an interesting group, from all occupations, from several
countries. Their varying experiences enriched my learning. Several
people in our class had already had prior trainings with Rex
and were quite happily and eagerly back for more...they gave
us inside tips and insights. The retreat center we stayed at
was lovely and tranquil with blooming prairie grasses, ponds,
miles of walking trails, and a kind, attentive staff. Bring
BUG spray..BIG cans! The food was good, buffet style, many choices,
even for vegetarians. I felt the rooms and retreat center had
the feel of a monastic setting almost, enjoyable but simple,
so you could focus. No flashing lights down the street and sirens
going off across town here. There was this quaint little bar
we frequented a mile down the road where we tried our skills
on the locals...fun.
In sum...the Sike's Master Track in Wisconsin was a catalyst
for change for me and many others...an excellent value for the
money spent...and a dynamic NLP experience. The breadth of NLP
information and opportunity for attitude change was uplifting.
Not only did I learn a depth of NLP, but the training was an
invitation to excel, to connect. I heartily recommend Sikes.
Assistant Professor of Psychology
William Penn College
Rex and Carolyn,
hard to believe that it has been over six months since Master
Practitioner training and over nine months since Practitioner
many wonderful things have happened in my life and I feel a
great deal of
it has to do with everything I have learned from you both. My
have not only stayed with me, they have grown and touched many
areas of my life and allowed me to touch the lives of others.
a friend of mine broke his leg, playing Soccer. The doctors
opened his leg (from ankle to knee) to put pins and rods along
bones. While his leg was open there was so much swelling the
not get his leg closed. The doctors told him that if the swelling
go down in a week that they would have to perform a skin graph
in order to
close his leg. My friend didn't like the idea of peeling skin
area of his body to cover a large opening in another area of
his body, so
he asked me, "Is there anything you can do for me?"
I told him, "That
depends on what you want." He told me that he just wanted
the swelling in
his leg to go down enough so the doctors could close his leg.
I went to
the hospital that evening and did some closed eye work with
him. He wanted
to know why I had him close his eyes so I told him, "I
am going to be
talking to your leg and I want you to see just how relaxed your
getting, even as we listen to the sound of my voice...."
minutes he was so far gone that even when a nurse came in and
talking to him he kept right on going developing his own special
where he could relax. Prior to my working with him on that evening
not been able to move his toes. While he was out he was able
to move his
toes freely. He called me the next day to report that he slept
hours straight, that was four hours more than he had been able
before and he didn't need any morphine for over eight hours.
I went back
and worked with him the next two nights and then it happened.
On the last
day (before the skin graph) the doctors went back in a closed
cool huh? It was a piece of cake for a Master Practitioner of
have been able to you NLP in my work as well. Until recently
I thought I
had only been using it to model the strategies of the best programmers
project managers I know. I was kidding myself. NLP is something
been using everyday to create rapport with my coworkers, clients,
am look forward to continuing my learning with you this summer.
So I can
thank you in person. Until then.
W. Olson, President
The Advance Group, inc.
Rex and Carolyn,
been 6 to 9 months since I took practitioner and master training.
I have personally attended three seminars with Idea seminars
this year. I did NLP practitioner training in June and Master
training in August and trainers training in October. The reason
I've done so much is because I'm so impressed with Rex's style
and effectiveness. I give it my highest recommendation.
This stuff is great and I find myself using it unconsciously
as well as consciously all the time. It has had a really significant
and positive impact on both my personal and professional life.
I am being significantly more effective in my efforts and interactions.
I'm living a wonderful, and a part of the reason for that is
due to the idea seminars training.
Reitzel, Vice President, Cincinnati, OH
(He took the training in July 1995)
Rex and Carolyn,
never knew that learning could be so much fun. It was a mind
blowing experience to say the least. I would without hesitation
recommend your training to any NLP practitioner who wishes to
go beyond text book techniques that are the staple of most NLP
trainings or any person who's seeking to improve their life.
all my NLP trainers, Rex is the most effective and dynamic one...
With him you get an example of what happens when you apply NLP
an accelerated learning to training. Where other trainers talk
about training, Rex does it. You'll learn more, faster and easier
than you thought possible. While other trainers follow a fixed
format Rex designs the training around the students so you don't
get the assembly line approach to training. Also he keeps the
class size small so you actually get personalized attention,
not some assistant who my or may not know what there're doing
and his installation skills are fantastic, you are learning
new skills without even realizing it. No other trainer had anything
remotely resembling Rex's installation skills. If you wanted
to model anyone for presentation and training skills, Rex would
be the one.
also came to realize how I was shortchanged by another NLP organization
in quality of my instruction. After training with Rex... I came
to the conclusion that my the trainers in the other organization
did not keep up with the latest technology nor how to teach
people properly. The way Rex... trains is so far removed from
how my previous instructors worked isn't even funny. I would
never go back to that other NLP institute. Their training was
slow and laborious at best. I had a better time waiting at the
DMV than being at their practitioner seminar. Some of their
instructors came unprepared for class and another, for lack
of a better term, was just rude. In one instance I say two of
their internationally known trainers run a 21 year old college
student through a 3 hour re-imprint pattern in which the student
re-lived his abuse as a child and also his mother being beaten.
(As far as I can tell they had him associate into these experiences).
Afterwards the student was worse for wear. I know because I
ended up working with him. No one else wanted to in the seminar
the NLP practitioner, you'll learn how to create your own patters
as needed and make your work easier. You will learn how to go
beyond the remedial change mode that of NLP (This is a result
of the therapeutic bent of most of the trainers, not NLP itself)
and into true generative change for yourself and your clients.
in closing, if you want to learn, have fun and design a better
life for yourself, Rex Sikes... is just the ticket.
are a few of my experiences as a result...
Because of the training, I realized that the job I was working
at was not what I really wanted and changed the situation. I
now enjoy working in a position that is much more suited to
In one instance, I used it to remove my mothers fear of driving
after a traffic accident. I made up the technique on the spot...
My attitude is now one of " LET'S DO IT AND HAVE FUN WHILE
DOING IT". This has certainly helped me in solving complex
computer networking problems. When my co-workers groan about
a tough problem, I adopt the state of "hmmm, something
new to learn." As a rule, I don't learn form easy problems,
only from the hard ones.
The ability to alter my state to suit the moment. Why get stressed
out when you can access or create the most enjoyable feelings
imaginable at a moments notice. Or make those magical moments
in life available anytime you want. Be with a close friend or
loved one and make those times truly delightful for yourself
and those around you.
Vacations are more enjoyable. Imagine being able to distort
your you sense of time to make an hour seem like a day and a
day seem like a week. Time distortion with enhanced sensory
acuity makes for a powerful combination.
I am able to notice other people's Meta-programs. It was probably
the most difficult part of my training. People give it away.
It is just a matter of paying attention to what people are doing.
In a business context, it is fascinating to notice what Meta-programs
I also just begun a business venture with my brother and I expect
to be doing this business full time within 8 months.
has truly become a wondrous experience - magic surrounds us
and now is the time to explore it. Thank you again Rex... for
introducing me to this powerful technology...
long and prosper,
has been over a year since I have last trained with you and
everyday the learning you gave me before more powerful and generative.
I am writing to you both as a thank-you, and a message you can
show people who may be thinking about doing your training (GO
there are a few people I would not recommend you to. These are
people who are afraid of change, people who don't want to rise
above the status quo to a level of excellence, people who don't
want to challenge their beliefs, people who don't want to test
the limits of possibilities. Rex, I may not recommend you to
these people, but I think the world would be a rich and wonderful
place if everybody trained with you.
have trained with many NLP training institutes (over 10) from
coast to coast... You distinguished yourself from other trainers
because you were not just doing NLP techniques, or even DHE
techniques. You were training people to go beyond just living
the principles of NLP. You taught me how to live a life that
exemplifies the presuppositions, and principles of DHE. There
are many NLP trainers that I can recommend for remedial change
or even transformation. However, Rex, you are one of the only
trainers who successfully teaches people generative change,
learning, and transformation as a way of life. Rex, you elegant
skills, sense of humor, and ability to stay on the leading edge
make you a trainer I recommend to people who want a life of
joy and excellence, and will only settle for the very best in
training. Rex, I've also learned to practice NLP and DHE with
heart from you. You teach people that NLP is more than just
techniques, NLP is an attitude, and a way of acting.
I hope to have the opportunity to hand out with you and swap
jokes, and stories in the near future!
you for the outstanding work you did with the New Warrior-Milwaukee
Council in our Team building Workshop held last July, which
you custom-designed for us. I want to share my personal observations
of the profound impact those six hours with six men appear to
have had in the community at large all this past year.
impressed, first of all, that you showed up as agreed. Ordinarily
this is no more than one would expect; however, you had just
had a major schedule rearrangement which required you to drive
all night from Kalamazoo to Milwaukee just to arrive on time.
A man of less integrity and commitment may have found such an
obstacle a reasonable excuse to postpone; you didn't. You were
on time, prepared, organized, and seemed perfectly willing to
spend the whole day.
the first ninety minutes, watching us attempt to handle some
business, you accurately diagnosed the key issues that were
slowing the Council down, from and unclear mission to unmanaged
personality conflicts. After diagnosis, the treatment: You elicited
a mission statement, provided basic instruction on effective
goal setting, and then developed new procedures for handling
conflicts and liberating the great passion for which the Warrior
Training flatters itself. And those new procedures worked -
by day's end the group had transformed from dull, slow, and
frustrated to fun, fast and on-task. It was like switching from
a Ford Fairlane to an F-16. We were flying! And all in less
than the six hours we'd scheduled. Miracle!
course, if all we'd gotten was a quick "bang" that
fizzled out the next time we met, we really would not have accomplished
much. That wasn't the case. At the very next council meeting,
a firestorm broke out when one member suggested that the council
get outrageous and conduct a Warrior Training all on its own,
without permission or referrals from Bill Kauth, the founder
of the Warrior Training. It was a dramatic turn. Much of the
Council discussion for the previous year had focused on Kauth;
complaints about what Kauth did, complaints about what he didn't
do, urgency about getting control of the Trainings away from
him, carping about how much cheaper the Training would cost
and how much better the training would be and how many more
guys would come to our drummings and how much more fun we all
could have if only Kauth weren't running the show... But at
a the very next meeting after our team building workshop with
you, the Council suddenly said to itself, "LET'S PARTY!!!"
and that night laid out a plan that, three months later, and
in find cooperation with the founder, produced a fine result;
the first Milwaukee-Area Benefit New Warrior Training. Miraculous!
you helped create that day was a group capable of radical (when
necessary) self-transformation in service to a mission. That
mission is "JUICE"... men jazzed on life, having fun,
feeling great dignity and honor just for being men, and using
that jazz and great dignity to serve others. And what juice
we've had! Drummings and 'talking stick' rap sessions are again
held regularly, with large and increasing attendance (reversing
a three-year trend of decline). They're lovin' it! National
personalities in the men's movement were brought in to speak,
again with large attendance. More events are being planned.
challenged the Council to DO SOMETHING - pointing out that it
was outrageous, given the wild enthusiasm we generated with
our weekend trainings, that out Council meetings weren't the
hottest, jumpin'-est parties in town. Get crazy!... have fun!...
and then DO SOMETHING! you said. Well, we're doing something,
Rex. We're starting to do a lot. With all our talent and desire,
we should be! But why wasn't this happening before? Can I really
credit you with all the new developments? Couldn't we have gotten
"juiced" without you?
played with you in your other workshops. Rex, and that's why
I invited you to ply with the New Warriors. in the past ten
years, I've met scores of therapists, trainers and helpers of
all stripes, from clinic volunteers to (one or two) television
personalities. You're the best. I'm convinced that you helped
us tremendously to bring more juice, jazz and all kinds of joy
to hundreds of Warriors all this past year - and, no doubt,
to their families, co-workers, clients and customers. On behalf
of all of them, once again, many thanks. I hope to play with
you again soon.
1992 Co-chair, New Warrior-Milwaukee Council
writing this letter to thank you and recommend your services
to others. Please feel free to use this as a letter of recommendation.
originally contacted you regarding my needs for your training
services. From our first conversation, you demonstrated a wonderfully
high level of care and thoughtfulness. In the final evaluation
from all participants, your work had a tremendous payoff to
work here at Learning Strategies accomplished two purposes.
You nicely put the finishing touches on several months of NLP
training for my class and brought them to new depths of personal
exception, the group was wildly enthusiastic about our work
with them. They felt they received value many times over that
they invested. As a result, you've made me a hero and a genius
for bringing you here.
very much. It is a pleasure and honor to know you as a person
of such great devotion to his work.
R. Scheele, MA
Author, "PhotoReading: The Whole Mind System" and
Learning Strategies Corp.
now some four months plus, since my completion of IDEA's training
and certification course I wanted to share my thoughts with
you. As a businessman, one of my first thoughts in retrospect
was: "was the time and money worth it?"
before my mind even completed that thought I grinned, recalling
in a rush of V-K's a.) the sheer personal delight of the training
environment that you and your very competent staff produced,
b.) the quantum leap-like improvements in my understanding and
utilization of the conventional NLP Submodalities paradigm and
finally, c.) that the materials are truly the result of... ongoing
explorations into the questions of "why do humans behave
as humans, and how can I deduce and use the implicit rules to
restructure the experience of personal reality?" Whew,
what a rush! The more direct answer is simply, YES!
training course, with heavy emphasis on total-immersion experiential
learning creates genuine competency in demonstrating the theoretical
as opposed to most trainings, which rely on perpetuated abstract
myths. You offer the difference between talking about, and doing!
Ebert, Jr. Principal
I first heard of (your training), I was intensely curious...
and very skeptical... I wanted something that would enhance
my previous training in NLP to help me become a better trainer,
a more skilled change artist, and a happier person. After attending
your training, I realize that these were very, very low expectations
then, my work has been more productive and fun, my abilities
have increased in quantum leaps, and a while new world of possibilities
continues to open up for me.
I told this to a friend of mine the other day, he asked me,
"What have you been using that you learned at Rex's training?"
I realized that, although I continue to use many of the techniques,
what has been more important has been the pervasive shift in
my attitude so that each day, life becomes more and more of
an adventure of discovery.
more than a year after completing your training, I would urge
them to find their most compelling reasons for wanting to attend
and then realize... THIS IS ONLY THE BEGINNING!
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